The number one reason that people don’t write their first books is self-doubt or fear. That fear of not being good enough, which is one of our core three fears that we have as human beings. These fears are a) the fear of not being loved, b) the fear of not belonging and c) the fear of not being good enough.
This is once again something that perhaps was embedded in our minds from the very early stages of our life, that imprint period of 0-7 years old and it’s all made up. It’s something that is not real, it’s something that we over-exaggerate in our minds, making a mountain out of a molehill. By giving into this, we are actually honoring the naysayers. We are in a way improving to ourselves that we truly are not good enough.
Overcome the fear of self-doubt and really bust through it. Like in Susan Jeffers’ famously-named book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. That is the best advice that I could share. Perhaps even reading her book will help with some of the strategies that she shares. But really, strictly, it’s answering that question to yourself, what’s the worst thing that could happen? Often, it’s never as bad as what our mind tends to exaggerate it to. You cannot escape fear, sometimes you cannot even minimize it, but you can learn to live with fear and deal with it.
One of my authors, Rachael Sheldrick once said at an event I heard her speak at that ‘sick means go’. That means when you get that sick feeling in your tummy, that you’re so scared because you’re not good enough, maybe you cannot figure out how you’re going to make this happen for yourself financially, or timewise, skills-wise, whatever… Actually, that feeling of sickness in your tummy is you needing to move to that next step, taking that leap of faith and saying ‘yes’ and then working out the how.
Because truly on the other side of that lies the transformation and evolution of you as a person to the next level.
Remember that, sick means go, feel the fear and do it anyway and just know that in over 300 people that have been on this journey with me, I’ve never, ever had anyone come up to me and said, ‘Nat, I wish I didn’t do this.’ They’ve never come to me and said that all of these repercussions that they’re seeing now are truly horrible. Everyone to this date has come up to me and said, ‘I’m so glad you made me do this.’
Stop letting fear get in your way of becoming a published author.
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